tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3065417988846319339.post867104796739778638..comments2023-09-26T18:31:35.350+03:00Comments on moving on up: Not Your Everyday Bankinghappyduck1979http://www.blogger.com/profile/16245267287433042922noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3065417988846319339.post-63744255426996327692013-02-14T08:30:20.486+02:002013-02-14T08:30:20.486+02:00You never know - getting mail with Rachel's na...You never know - getting mail with Rachel's name on it may wind up being very comforting! I think these things are so individual and unpredictable.<br /><br />When a very old friend of our family had a stroke, his family left the voice message he recorded on their answering machine where it was a comforting reminder of the days when he could still speak in hi inimitable Glasgow accent. Since he died, it is still there, and frankly, I love calling their house when no one is there.<br /><br />Although Rachel is not here physically in ways that are painful, the two of you will always be "Jason and Rachel". Channah will forever be "Jason and Rachel's daughter". Some things don't change. Funny that the rigid bureaucracy of a bank should testify to such a timeless truth - but hey, we are in Israel, where even a shopping list (those tomatoes and cucumbers you mentioned there) has spiritual significance.<br /><br />My advice to you in general is: REST. It takes a tremendous amount of energy, not just courage, to face these painful errands. Your home is steeped in Rachel's presence as it is the home you built together. Every day, in ways big and small, conscious and unconscious, you have to cope with and process her absence. Even when you are sitting still looking out the window, you are working very hard. Rest and pace yourself as your therapist so wisely advised. <br /><br />And thank you for sharing - it is very helpful!Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08450517835667492748noreply@blogger.com