This started as a reply to a comment elseware, but it started turning into a whole megillah so I decided to give it it's own post.
For a long time Jason and I were much further right leaning than we are now. We realized after a time that the only thing "wearing the uniform" meant was that we were trying to force fit ourselves into a slot that was not the right shape.
I do not believe in segregation a group diferentials because of outer casings. After a time I refused to dress as if I did.
I one heard, from a female Reform rabbi, there when it all boilds down to it, there are only 2 types of Jews. Those who take their Judaism seriously and attempt to do what they believe is right in the eyes of Hashem, and those who don't.
I think it can be extended to encompass all of humanity but changing it to "there are only 2 types of people in this world. Those who look to make it a better place, and those who don't.
Those who believe that Hashem/life is restrictive and is looking to make life hard and unenjoyable for everyone- that the only goal is to get through with "top marks" for yourself and screw everyone else. Those are the ones who I believe have no true understanding of what Judaism is. I firmly believe that Hashem wants us all to be individuals within the great framework he has given us. I also think that framework does include things that each of us are "over" on in some way. I have gay friends who would give you the shirt off their backs if you were in need. I know a woman who would never be caught outside the shower without her sheitle. Her kids are dressed in perfect matching outfits everywhere she goes. Her husbands hat is always perfectly brushed. And I also know she has absolutely zero decency in how she treats her hired help. I see people who are "completely shomer torah and mitzvot" who cheat the government out of every penny they can. It is not for me or anyone else in this world to judge who is a "bigger sinner".
People can accomplish the most amazing things when they build bridges rather than dig trenches.